We often hear the phrase "Its on the back burner" or "Don't put that on the back burner". This phrase came from the idea that usually when you cook the items that you are just heating or aren't tending to at the moment should be put on the back burner (out of the way). <Yes, I did just give you a lesson.>
So I started to ask myself these vital questions . . . "Whats on my back burner in Life? Does it need to moved to the front?"
Well if you know me (really know me), you know I tend not to deal with my issues over others. I guess you can call it self-less, but I just call it fulfilling. I tend to take into consideration everyone else opinion before I even think about myself. This is a terrible trait to have by the way. Great. . .I like to think about others first but I tend to put my own feelings and ideas on the "back burner" to please others. This is not a sufficient way to live. So you can say that my back burner right now is overflowing with things that probably should be on the forefront.
I had been thinking about doing this blog in particular for the past few days. It started with my inability to tell my sorority sisters, "NO, I need to study." I have this . . .eh, thing about me where I can easily be persuaded that something is the better option. <Another terrible trait to have> But I always regret it in the end because I'm too worried about someone thinking (in this particular situation) "She just doesn't want to hang out with us." Yeah, grown people still actually think this way sometimes. But today pushed me on to this blog!!! Today I met with a peer counselor to discuss my inability to decide what I want to do after college. . .It was overwhelming. You know that feeling you get when you someone ask you in High School what college are you going to, but you just DON'T KNOW?.. .Yeah, ten times worse. Called my mother who made me even more overwhelmed and then epiphany. . .I CALLED MY SISTER!!! Someone who could relate to me in all facades of the word. She was encouraging and it made me realize, I have let my feelings sit on the back burner so long they are starting to "burn" (fizzle out). I need to stop concerning myself with what others want or think and think about ME! So here it is:
"I may not become a doctor. I am not sure what I want to do but I want to do something that I can be great at. And I don't care if you judge me, because at least I am doing something with my life."
So if someone ask me what I am going to school to be. . .I will tell them, ". . . to become greater and when I specialize in my greatness I'll let you know."
Just ask yourself what are you putting on your back burner and is that where it should be. Seriously it could change your life!
To think of others before yourself is not a bad trait to have. The bad comes when you neglect yourself. The ability to think at all angles is a great ability to have. Just make sure that you are including your angle. It's a balancing act. Just remember you cannot make anyone else happy while you are miserable. Be fair to yourself.
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