Not What You Say, But How You Say It

My sisters can vouch for this: I am extra sensitive!!! I try to play like I'm hard and I got it all together, but really I am over-analytic and very people conscious. I grew a tough skin growing up in my house with two older sisters (that I love very much)! But what I remember most saying, not just to my sisters (who rolled their eyes when I cried cause they were jokingly picking on me), but also to my parents (who granted love each other but fight over "Why you say it like that?!" kind of stuff): "Its not what you say, but how you say it!"

I don't care how many times someone apologizes, you could tell if they were being sincere, right? Well same thing applies to regular everyday conversations. When you are talking to someone we often let the way we are feeling get in the way of how we speak to people or our attitudes. I remember one time distinctly last semester, one of my sorors and I started jokingly hitting each other in the boob at random (yeah, its stupid. But we are all a little stupid sometimes.). One day I was having a really crappy day, and she came up to me and hit me. Me, acting out of how I was feeling that instead of the light of the moment , hit her EXTRA hard. She got mad and we yelled .  .  . and like all good sisters we got over it eventually. But the point was I let the fact that I was having a bad day influence my actions which in turn ruined someone else day. All I'm saying is sometimes you have to take self out of the equation. If you're sick, tired, angry or just plain don't won't to be messed with. . .SMILE when someone smiles at you, answer honestly when they ask how your day is and WATCH YOUR TONE!!! You never know how your bad day can change someone's good day.

My philosophy is to smile no matter what, because there is always something to smile about. And if my day is just that crappy to the point where I know I would probably be a "Debbie Downer" on someone else day, I get to myself and take time to get myself together ALONE. Cause sometimes its not what you said just how you said it or the face you gave.

RANDOM FACT: And a pet peeve is when people say they don't care if people take what they say the wrong way. . .Cause you should. You look ignorant cause you can't present your words in a fashion that the person can understand it the way you meant it. Just saying! Lets be real. . .You care!!!

"Smile every morning, cause there is someone worse off than you and laughing! Enjoy life!"
- I said that. LOL